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Shannon's avatar

My walks with my dog have saved me again and again. He is 14 now, so we can’t go as far, but we go just as long so he can sniff and meander and I can settle my mind. I’ve learned not to pull him along or be in a rush--this is the time we have and I am grateful for it.

Suleika, what you said about having to put so much on hold creatively, and learning how to pick it up again when you got sick resonated so deeply with me. My husband Daryl died of colon cancer in October 2020, I had just agreed to take over a storytelling nonprofit that meant a lot to me, and I had finally finished a decent draft of my novel and just had received edits from my agent. I so wanted to be able to push through and pursue these projects, but grief destabilized me. I tried and I failed and could not connect in the same way, especially to the novel. I realized that I was mad it had outlived Daryl. That this book would never be read by him. Grief took my love of fiction away for a bit. I had to let these projects go (let them lie, I told myself). Three years later, I finally felt capable of holding one of them again. The loss of my love is now tied up with it, too, but I am learning how to be gentler with my expectations of myself, to know that surviving him, waking up each day to walk the dog is all I had to do the last three years. Thank you for all you write and share ❤️❤️❤️

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Sherri Rosen's avatar

Yes Dear Suleika I remember this prompt! Sending healing vibes to you and anyone in our community suffering. Walking is great but dancing does it for me! I can be in the foulest of moods and I put on music I love, dance around my apartment and the next thing I know a smile is on my face. Dancing was a huge connection with my dad, whose been gone for 30 years. I remember at my sis’s wedding when I was 13 the band played an old fashioned dance called “The Charleston” and dad and I got up from our seats, dressed in all our wedding finery, me kicking off my shoes, and dancing the Charleston with him. Just remembering the joy on my dad’s face and the joy in my entire body, and the joy of the wedding guests watching us. A memory and vivid picture in my heart.

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